Hope is the thing with feathers that perches in the soul
And sings the tune without the words, and never stops at all
And sweetest is the gale is heard; and sore must be the storm
That could abash the little bird
That kept so many warm...
~Emily Dickinson

Wednesday, December 22, 2010

defining days

Patience: good-natured tolerance of delay or incompetence
Incompetence: lack of physical or intellectual ability or qualifications

:a condition that is the inspiration for an activity or situation; "necessity is the mother of invention"

To be the best mother I can be to Kannon I must have above anything in this world, patience.

I must be patient with his behaviors.
I must be patient with his defiance.
I must be patient with the big picture here....that Kannon has little to no control over aspects of his life.

This all makes a recipe for such an opportunity.
My last post touched base on a bad day...one of many.
Today I wanted to share the outcome of such days.

Introspection: the contemplation of your own thoughts and desires and conduct

So this is where I am...today....not in a month.

I have realized the path I have chosen in this life is not an easy one.
I know that I chose Kannon, and he chose me.
I love that he trusted me enough to put his life in my hands.
I am frustrated that I cannot be on my "A" game every day.
I understand that without struggle and raw emotion I will not grow.

I like the definition I found of "mother"...:a condition that is the inspiration for an activity or situation; "necessity is the mother of invention"

I like to think of myself as a "condition", rather than something so concrete...at least in societies mind(s).
I like to know that I can affect someone...that I can be the inspiration for something of greater good.
I like to think that a true "mother" is by definition someone she has become out of inspiration...
I like to think of it all as one big constant circle of evolution...whether it be emotional or physical, we must evolve.

I think inspiration can come from almost anything...even a really bad day...when you pick yourself back up....

Out of necessity.



  1. Once again Lady you touch us with your beautiful writing. Kary you bring tears to my eyes and a warm peace to my heart when I read your blog and see your pictures. Loved getting your Christmas card...always one of my favorites to receive. Although I was disappointed that Kyle sent nothing this year :) May this 2011 bring you all peace, love, joy and PATIENCE, right? LOVE YA! Laura

  2. I always say understanding is one thing... KNOWING is another... you KNOW... you get it... your words inspire. Thank you for sharing them.

  3. So wonderful to have found your blog, Kary! It is beautiful! I look forward to following you! I would love to have your blog link on my blog!

  4. thanks so much for the inspiring note. it came at a good time for me since I am having one of those days as we speak.

  5. Thank you. This is just what I needed at this very moment. Not 10 minutes ago my 3YO autistic daughter tested my patience to the limit. Thank you for this.

  6. Your words speak the truth and lift me up. I too am a mother of a 6 year old boy with autism. From the far corners of Ormoc City, Philippines, thank you for sharing this. God bless you!